Ask Alexandra – August 2004

Question #1:

Dear Alexandra,

I am so impressed with the work you’ve been doing for the earth. After watching your videos on over-population, I can’t help but feel a sense of helplessness, given our current government administration cares has proven it has no concern for anything but procuring more oil, even at the expense of a false war. My question to you is, how do you stay positive when so much is against our efforts to save our earth?

Keep up the great work, I have much respect for you.


James Hoeve

Long Beach, CA

Dear James,

I stay positive by being involved and active on issues I care about. I think that when we just dwell on problems, we are bound to become depressed. But when we are activists, we don’t have time to think negatively because we are striving to make the world better. I once read in Ann Landers’ column that the best cure for depression was to go out and help others. I agree – and I also think that the best cure for gloominess about our future is to take action to change that future to a brighter one! It is amazing how small acts of volunteerism can really empower each of us, and an empowered person is not down in the dumps. An empowered person can still feel sad or worried about the state of the world, but we are not depressed – we are invigorated! Plus when you become an activist, you meet like-minded people and you don’t feel so alone in your fears and concerns.

I really appreciate your kind words, and I hope you find a way to become active yourself on the issues you care about.


Question #2:

Just wanted to let u know i saw u on Wayne Brady show and i was fascinated by your twin story, I am a twin also and i am gay and my identical twin is straight and we are 58 minutes apart. People wonder how can that be. do u know of any study that is being done or have been done on this topic?


Dear Craig,

One theory behind one twin being gay and the other being straight is that, if they are identical twins, sexuality is determined AFTER the egg splits, so the twins are already separate in the womb when one becomes gay and the other straight. You didn’t say if you were identical or not, but if you are fraternal (which is two separate eggs fertilized by different sperm – your genetic makeup is more similar to siblings than to identical twins) then it is very explainable to be gay and straight twins, as you never started from one egg/sperm combo that split, but two totally different eggs and two totally different sperm that happened to join up around the same time. But even though Caroline and I are identical twins, technically, our sexuality is just one of many differences. Humans are too complicated to be completely identical! Apparently even clones have subtle differences.

I looked on the internet and found mention of one study done in Australia, but not any specifics. I am sure there are studies (there should be), and there certainly are books on twins and what they can tell us about nature vs nurture. Interestingly, scientists know less about twins than you would think!

We are blessed to be twins, don’t you think? To me, it is one of the best things in my life.

Thank you for writing.

In twinship,


Question #3:


I recently saw the 10th Anniversary Special of Inside the Actors Studio. I would be very interested to know your answers to the same questions that James Lipton has asked his ever-so famous guests over the years. So in one word or sentence, please answer the following…

  • What is your favorite word?
  • What is your least favorite word?
  • What turns you on creatively, spiritually or emotionally?
  • What turns you off?
  • What profession other than your own would you like to attempt?
  • What profession would you not like to do?
  • If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates?

Thank you for taking the time to answer these questions. You are an inspiration to us all!


Dear Zach,

1. Since I was a little girl, I have loved the word “Meadow”, both for the sound of the word, and the serenity and vision of nature it conjures up.

2. The C word, the A word and the N word.

3. Activism, taking on a complicated character onscreen, my husband, a 12 mile run.

4. People who are late; Jealousy; People who talk on their cell phone in public; Drunk driving; People who say “I told you so”

5. I really don’t dream of doing any other job than being an actress.

6. I wouldn’t be able to work in an animal testing lab, or anywhere where animals are suffering.

7. “Well done, Alexandra! Yours was a life well lived, and full of love”.



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